20 Ignorant Things People Say When You Tell Them You’re on the Autistic Spectrum

All these are real examples from adults on the Autistic Spectrum – mainly Aspergers Syndrome. Also, I have inserted my own humour/sarcasm after the quotes. I’m pointing this out because sometimes ASD people don’t pick up on this. We aren’t good at recognising tones of voices. 

Today is World Autism Awareness Day and with that in mind, I thought it was time for another autistic themed blog post.

Autistic Spectrum Disorder (ASD) can be a confusing condition to understand and as it’s a hidden condition, it’s not something you can immediately see on a person. This makes it regularly misunderstood. Most people have heard of autism and already have their own idea of what it is from their encounters with autistic people. What they don’t understand is it as spectrum and it affects all of us differently. 

That being said nothing makes us want to pull our hair out more than the responses we get to it. So sit back, laugh and groan at all these relatable reactions we get when we have told someone that we are on the Autistic Spectrum.

“You seem normal to me.” – What is normal? And how did I qualify? I never took the normal person test.

“But you’re so pretty!” – What so you have to be ugly to have autism?! Autism has nothing to do with appearances!

“My daughter has mild autism.” – There is no mild autism…you either have it or you don’t.

“Oh that explains it.” – Groan.

You don’t look autistic.”  – This classic remark again…now tell me what does an autistic person look like?!

“You can’t have aspergers because you a ‘insert job title here.’” – Yes autistic people can hold down good jobs. Surprise, surprise!

“Ahhh…that makes sense.” – What? Did my blue scaly skin tip you off? No so what was it?

“You’ve always been a bit strange.” – And you’ve always been an asshole but what’s new?

“Everyone’s a bit autistic.” – Don’t minimize my condition please.

“Does that mean you’re a retard?” – No that kind of slur is outdated and offensive, so just no.

“I don’t think you are.” – Are you a psychologist? No!

“But you can talk and do not flap your arms and spin around!” – A can also swear…want to see?

“You can’t be autistic, my child is autistic and you are nothing like him.” – That’s why it’s called a spectrum!!

“Are you sure?” – YES I AM so is my well-trained, expensive psychologist who diagnosed me!

“Oh, so you must be high functioning.” – Well, technically aspergers has also been called high functioning autism but believe us we aren’t functioning.  We are just about functioning. 

“So are you smart like these famous people with autism” – I don’t know but I’m not about to do your taxes for you.

“That explains a lot.” – Explains what??? Now I’m paranoid!

“How did you go to college?” – The same way as you….I applied and got in.

“Are you just saying that to make me feel better?” – Yes, I got diagnosed just for the sake of this conversation…

“So are you like Rain Man?” – Yes he’s my cousin… No..not really.

Now for some harmless things people say:

“That must have been a shock.”

“I didn’t notice.”

“We figured.”

“I would never have known.”

And Finally A Relateable Video on This Topic by Autistamatic

Can you relate? Have you heard something that isn’t on the list? Let me know in the comments.

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    • Anna
      April 2, 2019 / 10:44 pm

      Thank you for stopping by! Yes everyone should try to be more supportive that’s this post is so important!

  1. Jonathan
    April 2, 2019 / 10:02 pm

    I already told you this one but here it is again (from last week):

    GP to me: Have you always had Asperger’s?


    • Anna
      April 2, 2019 / 10:43 pm

      Yes! I remember you telling that one..It’s just unbelievable…FROM A GP!!! #facepalm

  2. Lili Dewsbery
    April 3, 2019 / 3:56 am

    I have had many such things said to me, and I don’t always come out with the best responses, but for some reason I always manage to get away with it, which I find hilarious! Here’s some from a list I compiled and keep adding to as I encounter new ones. What a person said is after each number. What I blurted out in response to that is after — .

    1. Does your autism make you less intelligent than normal people?
    — No, but anyone that asks questions like that probably is.
    2. Are you left-brained or right-brained?
    — I don’t know about you, but my brain completely fills both sides of my cranium equally.
    3. You know how they say that we only use 10% of our brain, does your Autism make that different?
    — Unlike you and your 10% brain use, I use 100% of my brain, using different parts of it at different times for different things like most other people.
    4. You’re so unemotional, do you even have a heart?
    — Yeah, but mine does exactly what it’s supposed to do: it pumps blood.
    5. Why don’t you look at me when I’m talking to you?
    — Unfortunately my eyes aren’t very good at detecting sound waves.
    6. Wow, you have Autism, I didn’t know! Did you know you could pass for being normal?
    — Hmm… so could you.
    7. Do you have a sense of humour?
    — Umm… I’ve got one in my arm… oh hang on, that’s a humerus, never mind.
    8. Autism awareness day? I’ve never heard of it.
    — How does it feel to be the reason why it exists?
    12. You have autism? But how, you’re so intelligent?!
    — Oh well, at least makes one of us.
    13. What, you have Autism? I’m so sorry.
    — Why? Is my autism your fault? What did you do?!
    14. What savant ability do you have?
    — I’m really good at identifying stupid questions and answering them in a completely literal manner with brutal honesty and no regard for being polite, and I usually get away with it because people think I’m just being sarcastic.

  3. bonzifan
    April 3, 2019 / 3:09 pm

    Yeah I’ve had the “well you don’t look like you have autism” and the “well you must be really high functioning then” Usually after they’ve just asked why I do something they think is odd and I explain it’s probably part of my autism.

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